21 Lessons I have learned through my 20s and early 30s

  1. It really doesn’t matter what people think of you. Be yourself.  Do not take life too seriously or you won’t able to breathe.
  2. Do not waste another precious minute worrying about politics because no matter which party governs, they pander to the same interest groups.   There was a time when I was very interested in politics, but I grew out of that phase.
  3. The most important people in your life are your loved ones.  These people will go to bat for you.  They are the ones who have seen you cry like a baby, and to whom you aren’t afraid to show your emotions.
  4.  It is important to settle down on a career path you are truly passionate about as early as you can.  The 20s is a time to explore your interests and passions but by your late 20s, you should have an idea of where you want to be 20 years down the road.  Do not meander through the education system without a direction.  Every minute you are in school is a minute not spent working and getting experience in the real world.
  5. Age discrimination is real.  Yes, no matter what the law says.
  6.  Get to know other cultures because your future boss could be somebody from another culture from another part of the globe.  We live in a multicultural society.
  7. Going back to # 6, be friends with those from other cultures.  Do not be afraid of cultural differences.  This does not mean travelling halfway around the world to exotic places.  North America is a cultural mosaic. If you look outside your immediate social circle, you will find that some of your best friends could be from another culture.
  8. Find a mentor to guide you through a career or life in general.
  9. Find a close circle of friends. You do not need that many friends; half of them probably do not care about you anyway even if they follow your Facebook updates.  Ever occurred to you that some people are just nosy?  Find a few reliable ones.
  10. There is no point losing sleep over grades.  Just give your best effort.  In a few years, your biggest concerns won’t be whether you got that A- or B+  and you will look back and laugh at yourself for stressing over that final exam.
  11. Do not spend too much time on social media. Although I am also guilty of doing this, Facebook brings zero value to your life or your career unless you are one of those working with social media.  The time spent on Facebook is much better spent reading a good book or watching a documentary that will shed a different perspective on life. Or better yet, creating a blog to help others improve themselves.
  12. Read some self-help books.  Dale Carnegie etc.  Everyone needs self-help even if you think you are the strongest person mentally out there.
  13. Read some biographies of great men and women. Read about their challenges and how they conquered them.   There is a thing or two you can learn from these great lives.
  14. Some people just have bad luck.  We can’t change the cards we have been dealt with or the circumstances, but we can change the way we respond to these negative situations. Think of what you have rather than what you have been denied. Try to find the positive aspects.
  15. It is okay not to be pressured into marriage because of your family or your friends. You do whatever is right for yourself.   Just because everyone is jumping off the cliff, are you?
  16. Read both fiction and non-fiction books.  Non-fiction books help you stay current and well informed about the world.  Fictions fire up your imagination and creativity. No matter which stage of life you are at, everyone enjoys good writing.
  17. It is okay not to keep up with the Joneses.  It is okay not to own the latest smartphone or iPad.  But you must stay current with technology so you are not too out of touch with the world.
  18. Keep learning by attending classes online or in-person because education is a life-long mission.  Without learning something new everyday, I would feel brain dead.  Wake up each morning and push yourself to learn something new that day, whether a new idea, a skill or something as simple as a new vocabulary word.
  19. Enjoy the simple pleasures of life because they are the things that money cannot buy.
  20. Do not pour your heart out to the first person who smiles at you.  Because that person could use your words against you one day.
  21. Do not spend more time than necessary with people or work environments that do not contribute to your growth in any way.  They only hold you back from your potential.

6 thoughts on “21 Lessons I have learned through my 20s and early 30s

  1. Cathy Lynn Brooks September 11, 2015 / 11:18 pm

    Wow! This was excellent advice! I keep looking to see if you copied it from a great philosopher.


  2. Vibrant September 12, 2015 / 3:55 am

    These are some wonderful tips and you must be very wise to say all that 🙂

    I like the 13th a lot and I have tried doing this since I was in the school.

    I don’t agree with a couple of points but that is alright.

    I have a suggestion as your reader : You might space out some points and use an image or two–makes it more interesting..

    Have a lovely weekend,

    Anand 🙂

    Liked by 1 person

    • Karen September 12, 2015 / 8:30 am

      Thank you. I will keep that in mind for my future posts.

      Liked by 1 person

      • Vibrant September 12, 2015 / 8:32 am

        Welcome, Karen 🙂


  3. Mqm September 12, 2015 / 7:43 pm

    Very helpful & insightful!


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